I'm a psychologist who counsels by email. I was asked a tough question the other day: "Is it possible for two bipolars to form a good relationship?"

I read the question a second time, closed down my email, shut off my computer, and went for a ride. I remembered my own failed relationships; all my relationships have ended badly. I thought about my one ridiculous marriage that only lasted two years. Was that the fault of my bipolar disorder?

Then I took a deep breath and started noticing the beautiful Christmas lights on the houses I was driving past. They told me, "Despite all the fighting and failed relationships in the world, there's still more good than bad, more love than hate." I remembered all the people who are helping me in my battle with cancer without asking for a thing in return. There is a lot of anger and resentment in the world, but there's even more love, and I firmly believe that the love will win out in the end.

There's no perfect relationship. Whether the two of you are bipolar or not, you will face obstacles. The obstacles don't come from bipolar (or any) disorder. They come from being human. But we humans can do anything. Especially, we humans (all humans) can love each other despite the obstacles.

Yes, it is possible for two bipolars (or schizophrenics, or anybody) to form a good relationship. The Christmas lights told me so.

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